Random Thoughts Of The Lady Next Door

I'll tell you one particular question that stood out for me after I dissolved my relationship several months ago. "Why? You found someone else?" Why it stood out? It was the most obtuse question I had ever been asked since I started developing breasts, and its ludicrousness caught me off-guard each time, such that I never had any bright answer for everyone who asked me. I always wondered at the dullness of the mind that would so quickly jump to conclusions. I also began to question my public reputation. Do I really look like someone who would remain in a "situationship" because I was waiting to find another man to rescue me and give me what I truly desired? Really?  No. That's not what I really want to ask.  Are people aware that in this century, there are heterosexual women who love LOVE, but are not obsessed or frantic about being in any romantic relationship?  Are people aware that "You will not find a man to marry you" is only as ominous a thre...

Mother loved him.  Everyone did.  He was adorable. He still is. 😊 So when I told her I had called it quits with him, she could barely mask her mild disappointment.  She asked me, "so what were you looking at for 4 years, that you didn't think to end it at the beginning, only to do so now?" And then, amused, I asked her, "it's called courtship, right? What exactly is courtship for?" She understood.  You see, she had momentarily forgotten, like most of us, that not all courtships must lead to marriage. And that, a dissolved courtship is NOT a failed courtship. Rather, it is a successful one.  Isn't it folly to see intolerable traits in our partners and go ahead into matrimony with them because we think that love will conquer ALL? We need to stop putting pressure on our friends and families to get married to their current partners by all means and at any cost. The pressure is insanely much, especially on women, to spin lousy relationships into happily-ever...

Yup, you read that correctly. That's my million-dollar advice on how to get over that silly crush you have on him (insert 'HER' or other feminine pronouns/nouns from here on out if you're a man) especially when you know you shouldn't be harbouring such feelings for whatever reason. Don't argue yet. Just follow me as I share these practical tips.  1. Do not wait for your him to chase you. Do the chasing. By this, I mean ASK HIM ON A DATE. Yes you, young lady. Pick up your phone and ask him if he's free to hang out- or are you not the one seeking a solution? 😏 The move is yours to make, come on.   Fixed a date? Now at the venue? OK. Now's the time to administer the juice in your medulla 😂. Remember, you're not there to fall/bask in love, you're there to fall out of love. So while you may swoon over the perfect cupid's bow of his upper lips, or fantasize about him your knight in shining armour rescuing you his damsel in distress from the sharp...