THE CONTEMPORARY WOMAN: Braless and Free

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I think one day of my adult life I want to continue to remember as significant is the first time I rocked a dress to an event, braless. Like a typical church girl would, I squirmed when I first stepped out in the dress (I felt naked 😅). But as the day progressed, I began to enjoy the comfort of not having my chest constricted by metal underwires and hooks. 
Society might never immediately understand why the contemporary woman attaches so much significance to bras—or the freedom from having to wear them, especially when she has no real need to (I'm speaking for small-breasted women here, please). 

I'm thinking back to every single time I have felt the pressure to present myself in the image of an ideal woman: with perfectly round, sizeable mounds on the chest, when all of my breasts could easily be cupped in one palm. How did this do-or-die affair of mine with padded bras begin? Why did I feel indecent for not wearing a bra? Social conditioning?

I have certainly outgrown my adolescent obsession with cleavage (I served it in no mean portions growing up. Lol). Now older and more confident about every unique aspect of my femininity: lean frame, hardly noticeable derriere et al, I find myself embracing comfort over every other thing (e.g. fashion,  stereotypes of femininity, societal expectations). I care less about wearing bras that make my breasts look big. In fact, I see myself veering towards the extreme, getting disillusioned with bras altogether. Small breasts are a kind of breasts, after all They are valid. 😂

Nevertheless, I understand that insisting on comfort over all else where wearing of underwear is concerned is a slippery slope, because—I admit—the last thing I want to see is 'dick prints' and swinging penises (should men decide, like me, to ditch their underwear for the sake of comfort). And that is why I still wear my bras, albeit grudgingly. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. 

But I'm still researching other means of concealing nipple prints besides bras. When I get my answers, I'll be throwing a mini party to celebrate my twin babies' final freedom. 
(Bet on that at your own risk. 😁)

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