RANDOM THOUGHTS: On Women Who Steal The Spotlight For Themselves And The Womenfolk On A Day Set Aside To Celebrate Men

I saw a Facebook post bashing folks who subtly try to deflect from the single chance fathers get in a year to be celebrated by conferring the privilege on women as well (mothers who get uncountable appreciation days in a year oh 🤷🏽‍).

I actually agreed with the post. Still do. 

I'm of the school of thought that it's really asinine to not only try to steal other people's shine on their day, but to also, as a woman, wish oneself happy Father's day, or to wish one's mother happy Father's day. This new fad is hurting my brain really. I can't understand it. 

Your father is deadbeat? Simply leave him out of the celebration. 

And if you're feeling super vindictive, how about writing a long lovely epistle to celebrate your mother on Mother's Day (which I bet is around the corner. Isn't it held every other week? 😁😁) to "pepper" him. 

Well, shortly after I read the earlier mentioned Facebook post, I saw my friend, a dearly loved friend, wish her mom happy Father's day. (Apparently, the dad appears to be nothing but a sperm donor.)

Did I think her post unintelligent and dramatic? At first glance, yes. 

Did I feel like running to social media to call people who do that unintelligent and dramatic? Confessedly, yes. 

Did I do it? No

Why? Because I realized that it's only a fool that thinks he must have an opinion about everything people do with their lives. 

It occurred to me that my friend and I have both been exposed to different experiences. And while my exposure might make me react differently to a deadbeat father (like not calling my mother my father in any context 🙄), she on the other hand may have her reasons, deep psychological and even emotional reasons for doing that. 

I also learnt a while back that though my friends may not think like me all the time, and though they might do some things I won't be caught dead doing, it doesn't make me any better than them. I must live and let live. 

Besides, after voicing my unsolicited opinion and perhaps getting a few virtual appreciative comments, I'd likely lose my dear friend of many years because she'd see the post as a subliminal directed at her (and she wouldn't be wrong).

Doesn't mean I still don't think the idea of celebrating women on Father's day is trashy by the way. 

But then, it's just my opinion, and I'm learning to accept that not everyone thinks like I do, and to tolerate other people's harmless online shenanigans. 

Happy Father's Day!

16.06.19